Ten Text That Seem Like A Good Idea At The Time But Are Always Regretted:
Everyone has sent a text that is regretted at one point or another, whether it is immediate, in a few days, months or even years. This list is aimed at young adults but I feel like anyone who texts often enough will relate to this. Although there are no citations, I am sure you will understand each one of these texts and I hope you make better choices from my advice; although if you are anything like me, you will continue to make terrible text choices and carry much regret. But at least here is a heads up. This is a list of the top ten texts that are always going to be regretted no matter how you word them or when you send them.
- The Text To Make Plans:
This text often occurs at the beginning of the week when you are looking over a week of work or study and your weekend is pretty empty. A weekend approaching with no plans should make you excited and happy to relax but sometimes it does give you a sense of loneliness and meaninglessness. Of course, you try to come up with a solution by texting a few people to see what they are up to. This is pretty casual and non-anxiety provoking right? Wrong. Though this text may not be immediately regretted but as the weekend approaches the feeling of dread grows and the realization that pants and shoes will need to be worn at some point over the next few days, not because you have to due to societies opinions upon appropriate clothing but that you have actually planned to go into the outside world to pretend to have a good time with people that you may or may not like just to feel a sense of social achievement. This text is often followed by: The Last Minute Cancellation Text.
- The Last Minute Cancellation Text:
This text is very conflicting; for some people they feel no guilt and relax after this text is sent but others, like myself, feel instant guilt and stress, as I now have to remember why I could not make the plans that I organize to indulge my own self-loathing and then not blow my own cover next time I see these people. It is also an awful feeling that you have taken up some portion of someone’s time to then not see them – you have no idea what they bailed on to make these plans or if they were really excited to see you because clearly you are a catch, or if they had to rearrange their whole existence for these plans. I mean, you never know.
- The Drunk Text To The Ex:
This text is not always instantly regretted but most often is regretted the next day. Hopefully you do not send the “I miss you” or “I still love you text” but so often, regardless of how you actually feel, if you are several drinks in and the people you are out with are boring you, this is a text that so often gets sent. The first problem with this text is that you think it is a better decision than a drunken phone call. You would be wrong. Phone calls are often not answered after midnight (which is usually when these calls and texts are conducted). With this, if you are at a club you usually can’t be heard by your ex and that makes it all the better when they answer to you talking in great depth about the one time you talk about getting a pet together but decided it would be too much responsibility but how you really should of gotten that pet because that would of kept you together because it would of helped you show them the love you have for them…or something like that. Always call. It’s less permanent and damaging to your recovering ego. This text will make that hangover that much worse when you wake up the next morning.
- The Sober Text To The Ex:
This is a sneaky text that you construct over a few hours. Because you have thought about this text over an extended period of time, you think it won’t be regretted, you have convenience yourself this is a good idea. If your manipulative mind is good enough, you will probably start to think this is the only way you you’ll achieve your goal; which in this case is usually in hope to get back together. As I said, this text is so often thought about very thoroughly and you have convinced yourself this is a good decision. You are wrong, so very wrong. As soon as you hit send, you will feel instant regret. You will watch your phone non-stop until your ex replies and then you worry about what it says and then how long you should wait to reply. To be honest, it is a lot of hassle and over-thinking and usually very little reward. Avoid the whole situation. Don’t send the text.
- The Morning After Text:
Much like the morning after pill, this text is never fun, often providing the sender with feeling of nausea, anxiety and regret. After a night of fun with a stranger or a short-term partner this next text is never good to send because whatever you say will probably be poorly received. This is 100% circumstantial. And unfortunately due to societies perceptions dependent on if you’re a male or female but this is not as critical as one would expect. You can be just as clingy or misconstrued whether you are a woman or man. It is very hard to construct a good well-meaning text, so my solution: don’t send one. If they are interested they will text, if they aren’t they won’t. This is in the hope that not both of you have read this. In that case, you may need to send in hopes to not scare. My advice, “That was fun, maybe we could do it together sometime.” No more, no less.
- The Lie To Your Parents:
No matter what age you are it is always a bad idea to send this text. Much like the following “The Text To Make Plans” there is often a lot of memory involved. If you are seventeen and saying you are staying at your friend’s house but actually sneaking into your secret boyfriend/girlfriend’s room or if you are thirty-five and explaining to your parents of why you can’t come over this weekend to see their new patio furniture – it is always a regret. Usually this is long-term though, you regret this at a later date. This is the one text that I probably still would send but definitely make note of so you don’t create drama and therefore regret.
- The “I Texted The Wrong Person” Text:
This text is pretty obvious. As soon as you text the wrong person it is always a crucial secretive text, it is never the casual text asking for an address or how someone’s day is. No, it is always when you saying something you probably shouldn’t about someone else or when you’re sending that saucy text to your partner. And it is always miss-sent to someone of great importance like your boss or Dad or the exact person you don’t want reading that text. This is close to unavoidable unless you decide to only send things that you are okay with your grandmother reading (i.e. kind and classy, not rude or bitter).
- The Text After The Big Fight:
This text is very interesting. It could be with a friend, family member or partner. This text will often involve either a threat or an apology. Both usually are not the best responses. If you are threatening something and it is not received well or even if it is, sending threats are dumb because if you do not follow through you could be labeled as never following through; so threatening to your partner that you are not coming home if they don’t do something you want them to do, or if you are telling a family that you’ll never speak to them again – it is always a dumb idea, never ever threatening someone you care about, it will be regretted either instantly or within given time. The apology is sometimes matched with resentment and therefore regret. If you do not think you are in the wrong and yet apologise to move past this, it will often result in negative feelings. When initiating contact after a big fight with someone, take it slow and calm, ask to see the person face-to-face and keep your cool because ultimately you want to overcome the issue without any regret.
- The Inappropriately Asking Your Co-Worker Out Text:
Sometimes we think we are receiving signals from a colleague and we really aren’t, or maybe it is a harmless flirt at the water cooler. You might decide that this might be potential for a date or hopefully a full-fled relationship. That is okay, (dependent on what the rules in your workplace are). Just make sure you are extremely careful and never ever ask this person out through text. If you feel the chemistry and think it is worth risking dating someone you work with (I recommend you don’t) always ask in person – always. You do not need an electronic record that you have asked someone you work with out, you just don’t. And at some point you will most likely regret it, either when they say no or when you break up and the ammunition of possible sexual harassment or inappropriate communications within the workplace is just not worth pressing send.
- Most Texts After 11:00pm
Usually people send these texts are because they are lonely. It is often sent multiple times when you are in your twenties and thirties. There will be nights where you are bored, lonely or maybe even a bit desperate. You text a “close friend” to come over to hang out but you and them both know you are not going to hang out and it all goes south from there. That text you will regret. If it is after 11:00pm, just go to bed; don’t risk taking a friendship further because you are lonely and want to cuddle or do even more. It will do more damage than good. If you are still interested in the prospect in the morning, send the text then.